Digging deeper into Female Pleasure

A comprehensive guide to our pelvic muscles and how they affect our pleasure

We talked to Pussy Doctor Isa Herrera on Ask The Pussy Crew about pelvic muscles and their effect on female pleasure

Isa Herrera is the pussy doctor from PelvicRelief.com. Her mission: to make pussies everywhere happy. But what does it mean to help women obtain happy pussies? And how does that affect our female pleasure?

We spoke to Isa on our Ask The Pussy Crew podcast and she absolutely blew our minds.

Your job title is pretty amazing. But, what does a pussy doctor do, exactly?

Traditionally you would call me a pelvic floor physical therapist, but I found that to sound a bit on the boring side, so I turned it into the happy vagina doctor. I help women have happy vaginas, so they feel more loved and confident.

My job is both fulfilling and rewarding, and I love helping women come back into their sensual, powerful selves. I help women to awaken their inner healers and discover what’s actually going on with their vaginas, bladder and pelvic floor muscles so they can take back control of their pelvic and bladder health.

It is essential for all women to understand that our vaginas are composed of a group of muscles called the pelvic floor muscles, and like any other muscle in the body, the pelvic floor muscle needs to be strengthened, massaged, stretched, relaxed and toned.

So as a pussy doctor I evaluate the pelvic floor muscles, aka vagina, for strength, power, coordination, endurance, pain, flexibility, tone, trigger points and spasms. And the good news is that now I teach women how to do this for themselves in my online program, Female Pelvic Alchemy.

So here’s how I started. When I first started having sex, I didn’t understand the intricacies – you know, in the beginning it’s sort of like the blind leading the blind. And I had a little bit of pain but I thought, “Oh, it’s just because he’s too big or I have to switch positions,” but it never occurred to me that I could have some sort of pelvic floor dysfunction, even as a young woman.

After I had my baby, I had a tear in my pelvic floor and then it all went off. I had painful sex for over a year, I had incontinence, I suffered from a prolapse, I felt like I had just been given everything at once.

I believe that we shouldn’t outsource our vaginas, but instead create a deep understanding of what’s going on so we can heal ourselves from painful sex, incontinence, sexual dysfunction, pelvic organ prolapse and have amazing sex lives.

Isa, you describe yourself as a pussy doctor, but the word “pussy” is still really inflammatory out there in the world, even amongst females. So how do you empower that word?

I was at this conference this weekend and this woman who has like a million followers and is really well known for being very sexual and out there, says: “I hate the word pussy.” And I said: “Okay, you don’t have to like that word, I can use a thousand words to describe our vaginas.”

So for me, it is a little bit inflammatory and some people don’t do well with the word, so I gage the audience and if the audience or the person I’m talking to is not keen, then I’ll switch to “lady parts” or “down there”, or “vagina” or “below the belt”. There are many ways to describe our pussies or vaginas.

I looked it up in the Urban Dictionary and there must have been 50 different words there or more, so I just tailor it to the person.

So when we were in Utah, I was telling you I was doing my Kegels every day to keep my vagina in tiptop shape and you told me “No, don’t do kegels!” – so what do you do when you’re “healing” your pelvis and why are Kegels something that you are really against?

First of all, I know over 25 different types of Kegels. The average woman probably does maybe one or two. Research shows that 25% of women don’t know how to do a Kegel.

A lot of women, especially in society today, are super tight in their vaginas. They’re overkegeling themselves, and I call it “Kegel Tension Syndrome”. They forget that we have to be supple. We have to be inviting. We have to open. And if you’re really tight and you’re having some pain with sex – which a lot of women do, in the US alone it’s one out of three – then you need to do what I call the Reversed Kegel. Which is the opening and blossoming Kegel.

So what happens is too many women today, I find mostly because of stress, overkegeling, running, too much pilates, too many impact exercises, or not having a balanced workout program, is that their vagina becomes too tight. And so when you’re having sex, you need to move this way or that way, and you think that maybe his penis is too big, or that there’s something wrong with you, but in reality it’s just a muscle issue that needs to be massaged, strengthened, relaxed and opened.

And these are all things that create beautiful orgasms and make you feel more confident and more connected to your lover.

Everybody who comes to see me says, “I’m really loose down there,” and then when I do an intravaginal evaluation I’m like, “No, you’re the opposite. You’re too tight.” And then what happens when they’re that tight, but they think they’re loose, they go crazy. They get the Yoni egg in there, they do a hundred different kind of leg lifts, they do I-don’t-know-how-many Kegels, and then they lose their pleasure. And they get pain.

So, what exactly are Kegels and what is the right way to do them?

Kegels are strengthening exercises for our pelvic floor muscles, aka our vagina muscles. A Kegel happens when a woman contracts her vagina and holds it for a set number of seconds and then releases the contraction. Like other exercises, Kegels should be performed with a fixed number of repetitions, sets and seconds. This is what I call the Pelvic Power Formula. Every vagina is different, so every woman needs to find her Pelvic Power Formula.

It is very upsetting to me when doctors and trainers don’t explain the nuances of this Pelvic Power Formula because it hurts women in many ways. The problem I see is that doctors and trainers prescribe Kegels using a one-size-fits-all cookie cutter.

Doing Kegels incorrectly can lead to more leaking, more pelvic organ prolapse, anorgasmia (weak or no orgasms) and sexual pain. I call this Kegel Tension Syndrome and it’s a real thing, which is why many women don’t think Kegels can work and give up on them altogether.

A Kegel has three critical parts to it:

Part one – the clitoral nods downward
Part two – the perineal body moves up and in (the area between anus and vagina)
Part three – the anal wink (anal contraction)

These three actions should happen at the same time with coordinated exhalation breath and the hips need to be in a neutral position. Once the Kegel is performed, a full relaxation of the vagina MUST happen. This is what I call a Reverse Kegel. This counterpart is as vital as the Kegel.

To discover more about Kegels, I recommend you download my FREE Kegel CHECKLIST where I go into great detail on how to master your Kegel in 4 steps.

So how would a woman know whether she’s too tight?

You can actually put your finger inside your vagina and see how you’re squeezing, how long you can squeeze for and if you can open and let go. Many women can squeeze, hold, but when it comes to the Reverse Kegel, the thing that’s going to create the balance and the pleasure, they can’t let go. So that would be one indication.

Another indication would be stuff like having a lot of urgency. Like you have to pee all the time. Indication that you have a tight pelvic floor. Menstrual cramps – tight pelvic floor. Because the pelvic floor is the primary support for the uterus. The uterus sits in the pelvic floor, and when it’s really tight it doesn’t allow the uterus to breathe like it’s supposed to. It’s supposed to expand and then expel the blood out, but if it’s trapped because it’s too tight, it can make your menstrual cramps worse.

Some women suffer from chronic UTI’s, what could be causing those kind of symptoms?

The funny thing with UTI’s is that most women think it’s an infection. So they’ll go and take the antibiotics without actually testing. So the first thing I want you to do is actually test to make sure because otherwise you’re going to destroy the microbiome and you’re going to create more crazy shit for your pussy.

The other thing is that the bladder is help up by the pelvic floor. So sometimes if there is a disharmony in the pelvic floor, it sends a bad message to the bladder and then the bladder gets pissed off and it makes you feel like you have to pee all the time, or it gives you pain with urination, or it gives you the feeling that you have burning or itching inside.

And what happens is – you know when you have a knot in your shoulder? The same thing happens inside the vagina. But we don’t know about these things so we think we have a UTI.

Isa, you talk about pussy relaxation and meditation, and even about massaging. So how do I massage my pussy?

The vaginal opening is like a clock and the clock is in your belly. So twelve o’clock is by the clitoris, six o’clock is by the anus, three o’clock is to the left and nine o’clock is to the right. The pelvic floor muscle is a beautiful muscle, so gorgeous. It gets progressively deeper as you go inside the vagina and there’s three levels of it.

The first level is the first knuckle, the second level is the second knuckle, and the third level is the third knuckle. So we were meant to massage ourselves, because even our fingers fit in there perfectly to do the work. If I wanted to massage my vagina for the first time, I would either use my thumb or my index finger and I would go right into the first level – which, by the way, is the sexual level, that’s the orgasmic level. And then I would press straight down, sort of like the perineal massage pregnant women do, but this one’s called “the pussy stretch”. To give you better orgasms and so that whatever is going in you have this sort of receptivity.

Now, because a lot of women have a lot of trauma in their vaginas for all kinds of reasons, I like this massage that I call “the queendom massage”. It’s right in the six o’clock area. You’re going to put a really nice lubricated finger there – and you can use coconut oil, it’s really great for the vagina – and you’re going to the perineal body, the area between your anus and your vagina, and you’re going to do twenty clockwise circles and twenty counterclockwise circles. I want you to be gentle at first because sometimes this area has so much trauma that women will feel pain with this very simple massage. The main thing is to make this supple going in both directions because then it’s not restricted, and then you can get even more power. Because you’re freeing the one spot where the main power comes from.

Any closing thoughts on our pussies and Kegels?

I believe all women hold the key to their pussy power and pelvic healing and should trust their intuition and themselves more. The big problem that I see with society right now is that no one knows about proper pussy self-care and we are all in the dark as to how to care for ourselves, and so we don’t care for the most important muscles in our female body – our pelvic floor muscles. To this end, I created my online female pelvic healing program, so that women could awaken their inner goddesses and reclaim pelvic power, so they can experience the purest of pleasure.

My Female Pelvic Alchemy online program will help teach you over 10 different types of Kegels and show you how to massage your vagina, tame your bladder and eliminate sexual pain and weak orgasms without going to the doctor. Awaken your inner pelvic healer with my online program by clicking here.

Don’t forget to check out what Isa is up to on her Facebook and Instagram.

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